[busyness53]

1year 2mnths the parents brought him to you with just the clothes he had on 1 tin of milk, 1 packet of nappies no financial. You watched him grow get his first tooth, his first of everything then they decide they want him back .

[Diane]

Depends on their situation?

[Sparklechick]

If you took a child under those conditions then surely you'd know that eventually if the parents wanted the child back then you'd probably have to give the child back.

As Katie L says, we'd need more information before making a properly informed response.

[busyness53]

Thanx for the cmments guys.

[busyness53]

this is busy's daughter.....i must get me a memebership...........anyway the baby concerned is actually my nephew he was 1 on the 10th of feb, his parents rung me for help to see if i could care for thier three children, as mum said they had very little with them, so with the help of my mum i brought them clothes, as it was winter, and feed them with no help from the parents, they had been evicted from thier home, i took all three children in, then 3 weeks later they picked up the two older children leaving the baby, as time went by, the only contact they had with the baby is when i took him to see his parents, i have recieved $120.00 for him in the past yr, i watched him with his first tooth, learning to crawl, sat by his bedside in hospital twice, watched him learn how to crawl, i treated him no differently to my own child, his first b/day came and went without a word from them, who by now had thier own home and was working and now i dont know what to do, although i never gave birth to him he is as close to me as my own child...........busy's daughter

[Diane]

I can understand that.. but was it ever said you would keep the child permanently?
I think you've done a great job, but parents, IF they are fit parents, should be with their kids.. because the kid is sure going to want to have some form of contact with his/her real parents at some point in their life.

If the parents want the child back.. and you think they are serious in wanting to be decent parents.. you have no choice but to give them a go Hon.. even though you were there for this childs first tooth etc.. and been their mum.. well.. some people don't give up a child because they want to go and rage on.. they have real problems.. and sometimes.. with a little luck.. those problems are solved and the child can grow up with it's natural parents.

[busyness53]

*busy's daughter yet again*
thank you very much for replying KatieL, i am currently seeking interim custody which the parents are giving me for this chil, Kasey, the only contact they have with him is when i take him to visit in which time they have him for up to 3 or 4 days by the time i pick him up again they hand him back with no words, when i lose him, which may happen, it will be like losing my own son Kamryn, Kasey's parents couldnt even make the effort to come for his first b/day, havent requested any photo's of him or anything, everytime i get him back he clings to me for days on end, although he is in my care i do believe he should know his *birth parents* and sisters, i dont stop them from visiting or keeping in contact, they stop themselves, we recently visited,he stayed with them for 4 days, maybe i should stop responding to this thread as it is a touchy subject with me, but thanks to all whom answered
ka kite
kia kaha kia maia kia manawanui
*jacqueline*

[Diane]

I wish you luck, and hope everything turns out ok for all concerned

[Sparklechick]

You have done an amazing job and I'm sure the child will appreciate you forever, even if the parents take the child back that child will always remember you and I hope that if you do lose the child I hope the parents let you continue to be part of his/her? life.

Good luck.