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AlsationOfDoom · #1 (**permalink**) **03-Jun-2004, 01:21 AM**

I have a couple of questions...

Can long distance relationships work?

and...

Is it likely that relationships that start on the net will work out?

and...

Why do you like sparkles?

:P That's all, there is no more :P

Penny · #2 (**permalink**) **03-Jun-2004, 06:15 AM**

Am I allowed to answer or do you specifically want Sparkly gal to answer???

Sparklechick · #3 (**permalink**) **03-Jun-2004, 07:44 AM**

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Originally Posted by AlsationOfDoom

I have a couple of questions...

Can long distance relationships work?

It depends. I personally wouldn't try a long distance relationship as it can be really hard on both parties. I find it hard enough when Kall is away for a night or two, let alone any longer than that!

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Originally Posted by AlsationOfDoom

Is it likely that relationships that start on the net will work out?

I hope so, Kall and I met on the net and it is working out very well!

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Originally Posted by AlsationOfDoom

Why do you like sparkles?

I used to wear glitter and sparkly stuff when I went out. I'm not sure why, I just like to Sparkle. It seems to make people happy.

Sparkles rock ....

AlsationOfDoom · #4 (**permalink**) **03-Jun-2004, 12:26 PM**

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Originally Posted by Penny

Am I allowed to answer or do you specifically want Sparkly gal to answer???

No, it's all good, penny.

You can answer.

I was really just looking for some peoples opinions, and 2 heads are better than 1

Thanks Sparklechick.

Penny · #5 (**permalink**) **03-Jun-2004, 12:37 PM**

yay!!

Long distance relationships depend on the people involved. I've done it and it was at first sucessful well for a while

but that was a whole different issue.

The things to remember with a LD relationship is to have some sort of plan of where you want to be in the future together, becuase otherwise it will just feel like it is dragging on and on and on. The other thing I would say is to make sure that theres no jeaousy if the other person goes out and stuff with their friends cos that don't work either.

Relationships from the net can work out, my brother married a gal he met on the net, he had this long Distance net thing going with her, having only met her once (she lived in sydney) and then he moved over to Sydney and they like dated for a bit longer, and then they got engaged, and just at the end of Jan did they get married. And i know some others too... but they have known each other for like 5 years now...

And for the final question... She likes sparkles cos they match her eyes...

Or I imagine thats what kall would say! :P

AlsationOfDoom · #6 (**permalink**) **03-Jun-2004, 10:36 PM**

Thanks guys, that helped alot.

Well, I think I'll give this thing a chance then

Penny · #7 (**permalink**) **04-Jun-2004, 06:11 AM**

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Originally Posted by AlsationOfDoom

Thanks guys, that helped alot.

Well, I think I'll give this thing a chance then

So now, can we know who, what, where, when, liek all the details... man I so miss my friend, I haven't seen her for like 2 weeks AND have had noone to gossip with!!!!!

still_thinking · #8 (**permalink**) **13-Jun-2004, 10:17 AM**

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Originally Posted by AlsationOfDoom

Thanks guys, that helped alot.

Well, I think I'll give this thing a chance then

I was going to start a thread on this very subject!

I'm in a long-distance relationship, with lovely lady I met on "another site", been together (if that is the right word) for 3 months now.

I think the hardest part about it is, if there is a real connection between the two parties, is the lack of physical contact (NOT just THAT kind of contact :P) can be very hard.

I had a long and very deep conversation by phone with my lady last week about it all, she craves the closeness that only a "normal" relationship can bring, you know the sort, you've had a crap day and all you want to do is have someone there to rant to about it, and get it off your chest. I know thats what I want too.

I'm taking the step of applying for jobs in Wellington, where she lives, so we can be closer, we see a future together, we have a lot of things in common, but then we have different tastes too, so there is a balance of sorts.

My advice? (I actually came seeking advice but here goes) It takes trust, it takes time, and it takes a lot of understanding and BIG phone bills! But if the lady is worth it, go for it! Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

NiteFenix · #9 (**permalink**) **13-Jun-2004, 01:47 PM**

I'm in a long distance relationship and it sure does have it's rocky patches.

Take this advice which has brought me and my gal this far...

Patience and Perserverence.

Penny · #10 (**permalink**) **13-Jun-2004, 02:34 PM**

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Originally Posted by NiteFenix

I'm in a long distance relationship and it sure does have it's rocky patches.

Take this advice which has brought me and my gal this far...

Patience and Perserverence.

How far apart are you and your gal?

NiteFenix · #11 (**permalink**) **13-Jun-2004, 02:35 PM**

About 2000 KM Penny.

Penny · #12 (**permalink**) **13-Jun-2004, 02:39 PM**

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Originally Posted by NiteFenix

About 2000 KM Penny.

how often do you see her?

NiteFenix · #13 (**permalink**) **13-Jun-2004, 02:50 PM**

About once every 3 months. Every night on MSN.

Penny · #14 (**permalink**) **13-Jun-2004, 02:52 PM**

aww man thats gotta be rough. I did it for a year once, it was ok, we were only 600km away from each other and he would travel down a bit.

NiteFenix · #15 (**permalink**) **13-Jun-2004, 03:04 PM**

She's busy sorting out everything so she can move down here and be with me so we might not be apart for too long.

Sparklechick · #16 (**permalink**) **14-Jun-2004, 12:21 PM**

My best advice (and you all know I'm an expert .. ha!) about dealing with long distance relationships is to MOVE.

Get off your arse and go be with the person you adore. Or, for a slightly easier solution - convince them to move. NiteFenix has the right idea.

still_thinking · #17 (**permalink**) **14-Jun-2004, 05:40 PM**

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Originally Posted by Sparklechick

My best advice (and you all know I'm an expert .. ha!) about dealing with long distance relationships is to MOVE.

Get off your arse and go be with the person you adore. Or, for a slightly easier solution - convince them to move. NiteFenix has the right idea.

I'm working on that right now

*Time for an unadulterated plee to Wellington employers - give me a job please!!!!

Darkling · #18 (**permalink**) **16-Jun-2004, 05:23 AM**

Don't rush into this whole moving malarkey.

Worst case scenario:

You up-sticks and move half a world away to be with someone you love from afar.
After a week in the same time zone you find there is nagging incompatibility and it's starting to chafe.

All the trouble.
All the expense.

Are you going to have to move back after all this?
Can you move back?
Did you sell your house?

Perhaps worse:

They moved to you.

Now they're hanging around your ancestral stomping ground.
You can't go out, they're there.
They've taken all your friends for their own.

You're a stranger alone in your own home town.

Or you could be happy together

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