Hi Enalya
This is a tricky one. You will be feeling like your heart has been completely ripped out of your chest but believe me things will start getting easier.
As for the being friends bit ... as long as you set boundaries then I don't see why not. You need to let him know that being friends means just that, he can't manipulate your feelings so he can have a buddy that will give him the occassional shag because that will do you no good whatsoever.
Me personally, I've never stayed friends with ex-boyfriends. I like to move on completely with my life and it's worked out well for me. I know some people like to stay mates with the ex's and that's fine too but you need to work out what would work best for you.
I guess a lot would depend on why he broke up with you. If it's because he's seeing someone else then you wouldn't want someone like that as a friend would you?
I hope this has helped in some way.
I will say this though ... you don't NEED him as a friend. He broke your heart ... move on and find some better friends.
It took me until I was 28 and a few failed relationships under my belt before I found the most perfect man *smiles at Kall* and I've been in two 4-5 year relationships so believe me when I say all is not lost ... think positive and get ready for the next wonderful man who will enter your life
