Thanks everyone for taking the time to reply.

I also watched that show last night it made me cry. Ive been there recovered and I relapse everytime. i still can't find a way to gain any control over it. The part where the therapist told parents to see there daughter as seperate from the anorexia really hit me. I do the most horrible things I lie I steal food I hurt people who care because this monster lives inside of me. Sometimes I think my only hope is to minimize the behaviours as much as possible but many times Im not concious ofwhat is happening until it is too late. This is why i am interested in hearing about the programs here. I have had 3 previous hospitalizations and 3 years total of out patient treatment programs. I have been in therapy on and off since I was 12. I have a great team of doctors here but im terrified to go back to hospital.

Penny nearly any close friend I have had has been eating disordered met through programs or support groups or internet. Its somethign that brings you closer than most people could imagine. I understand about been able to tell I have that connection with some friends. it hurts to love someoen and know they are like you and they suffer so.
I hope your friend continues to find the strength to fight it. It never does go away but some people can learn and grow to be strong enough.
M