strangely enough there wasn't a lot of rivalry between us as youngsters or even now though my adopted brother and i got into it a few times.
speaking of grandfathers, i understand both of mine were rogues/tyrants too but like you sparkle never knew them. i think men in those days were under more pressure bearing the sole responsibilities for their families. seems life was harder back then for the average joe and this must have taken it's toll on the men and their tolerance.
i really don't think men these days know what real pressure and stress is. not in new zealand anyway.